Loneliness is common at university, especially in halls, and this page is for any student who feels isolated, disconnected or “on the outside looking in.”
Feeling Lonely at University
Many students expect university to be non-stop socialising, but the reality can feel very different. You might be surrounded by people in halls or lecture theatres and still feel alone, or you may find it hard to connect with others in the way you hoped. Loneliness can affect anyone, at any stage of your course, whether you’re living on campus, commuting, working alongside your studies, or balancing caring responsibilities.
Loneliness is not a sign that you’re doing something wrong. It’s a signal that you need connection and support—and the University can help with both.
Why Students Feel Lonely
Students often describe loneliness at university as surprising, “terrifying,” or scary, especially in halls where it can feel like “everyone else” is making friends easily. Common reasons include:
- Finding it hard to meet people outside your flat or room.
- Spending most of your time studying or working, with little energy left to socialise.
- Not knowing anyone you live with, or feeling like you don’t “fit in” to existing friendship groups.
- Noise, layout, or atmosphere in accommodation making it harder to relax and talk to others.
- Money worries and the cost of social activities, which can limit going out or joining in.
- Reliance on phones and social media, which can increase comparison and make you feel more disconnected.
It’s also normal to feel lonely if you’re missing home, managing health issues, adjusting to a new culture, or just not clicking with the people around you straight away.
How Loneliness Can Affect You
Loneliness can have an impact on:
- Mood and mental health – feeling low, anxious, or tearful, or worrying that you don’t belong.
- Motivation and study – finding it harder to concentrate, attend classes, or keep up with work.
- Physical health – tiredness, poor sleep, or changes in appetite.
If loneliness is affecting your wellbeing, you deserve support. You do not have to wait until things feel “serious enough.”
Small Steps That Can Help
You don’t have to become instantly outgoing or attend every social event. Instead, focus on small, manageable steps:
- Be realistic and kind to yourself
Friendship takes time. Many people around you are also finding it hard, even if they seem confident from the outside. - Start with low-pressure spaces
Try informal events like Fancy a Cuppa or Craft and Cuppa Club, where you can drop in, have a drink, do something relaxing, and chat if you feel up to it. These sessions are designed for people who might feel nervous, shy, or unsure where to start. - Use shared spaces with purpose
Sit in a common room with a book or some work, cook in the shared kitchen at busier times, or say a simple “hi” to people you recognise. Repeated small interactions often grow into more meaningful connections over time. - Join one thing that genuinely interests you
Whether it’s a society, sports club, volunteering or a one-off workshop, shared interests can make conversation easier and friendships more natural. - Look after your basic needs
Eating regularly, getting enough sleep, and moving your body can make it easier to cope with difficult feelings and to reach out to others.
University Support If You Feel Lonely
You are not expected to manage loneliness on your own. Support is available, and it’s okay to use it—whether you want practical ideas, emotional support, or both.
- Student Life Advisers (Student Support and Wellbeing)
Book a one-to-one appointment (in-person, by Teams, or by phone) through firstpoint to talk about how you’re feeling, explore what might help, and plan next steps. Advisers can help with confidence, connection, and navigating university life. - Counselling & Mental Health Service
If loneliness is affecting your mental health, you can be referred for more specialised support, including counselling or mental health advice. - firstpoint
firstpoint can explain support options, help with practical issues (like finances or study worries that make it harder to socialise), and signpost you to events, services and opportunities to connect. - Students’ Union, societies, and volunteering
The Students’ Union offers societies, activities, and volunteering opportunities that can help you meet people gradually, in settings that feel meaningful and manageable.
If You’re Struggling Right Now
If you feel overwhelmed, very low, or worried about your safety:
- Talk to someone – a friend, flatmate, family member, or trusted staff member.
- Contact firstpoint or Student Support and Wellbeing for advice and support during office hours.
- For urgent emotional support out of hours, you can contact services such as Samaritans (116 123, free, 24/7) or SHOUT (text ‘SHOUT’ to 85258).
If you ever feel at immediate risk, contact emergency services or University Security.
You Belong Here
Feeling lonely at times does not mean you don’t belong at university. It means you need connection, understanding, and spaces where you can be yourself. Those exist here—through wellbeing events, support services, opportunities to get involved, and people who care.
Reaching out, even in a small way, is a strong and hopeful step. You are not alone in feeling lonely, and you do not have to face it alone.